On this blog I generally try to stay fairly opinion-neutral, but I’m just going to say what I’m feeling tonight.
Kate Gosselin makes me feel dirty. I feel like she exploits her kids and that makes me feel dirty. It makes me wonder if others think that by writing this blog I am exploiting my children; I am exposing their lives to a world they didn’t ask to be exposed to. I know I shouldn’t worry about what people think, but I do…I’m human.
I saw her on the Today Show this morning reading an excerpt from her book. She was reading a letter to one of her children and I immediately thought of the letters I have written here, to my girls. I guess the difference is that I can’t talk to my girls and I can’t tell them how much I love them and miss them in person, so I have to get it out somewhere. She is so lucky to be able to tuck her kids in at night and remind them that she loves them. I don’t know if she is embracing those moments in real life, but I really hope so. I hope all the moms and dads in this world are lucky enough to soak in those moments.
A few months ago, I had thought about turning my blog posts into a book. Not for fame or fortune, but to help others that have been on the devastating end of an SMA diagnosis; for others that have dealt with paralyzing grief; for me and my own peace of mind. I’m beginning to rethink that idea of a book. I just don’t know if I could handle the guilt of possibly exploiting my sweet girlies.
For now I’ll just keep talking to them in my own ways…when I make a wish on an eyelash or when I stop by their trees or when I write them a little note here. I’m not doing it to exploit them, I’m doing it because I don’t know how live my life without talking to them and reminding them that I love them.
Oh no no no… you are in the RIGHT and you can't even compare yourself to that 'thing'
Seriously… you have written letters to your girlies from your heart. You have willingly put it out there and shared your girls with the world because you love them and never want them to be forgotten. well at least thats why I share Nolan. I NEVER want him forgotten and plus I have so much to say, I just keep writing.
Its therapy to women like us, it's money and survival for material for her.
God bless.
Love,
Ashley
I think writing through your grief is way different than parading your children around as if they are show-cattle.. To raise awareness, to have a network of people who "get you", to just get it all out of your head and into something solid is the best therapy there is..For me, its been a year since we lost our daughter on May 19th..I find it interesting to look back on my blog to see how I felt when she was ill, when she passed, and the months following..I think its good for us to see where we've been to where we are now with grief.. just my thought..((hugs))
PS..I despise Kate Gosselin, I could not even watch jon and kate +8 because she is SUCH a hag..I wouldn't have stayed married to her either 😉 and I certainly don't see how she takes credit for being a "single mother" lately.. IMO
You are NOTHING like Kate Gosselin. She has been blessed in life and just wants more, more, more. You have been faced with incomprehensible tragedy and are using a blog to express yourself.
You don't know me…I am a Nestie who has followed your story. But I am in awe of your strength and remember your girls and the family they left behind in my prayers everyday.
You are a grieving mother who is sharing the life and memories of her daughters. The information you give provides support, not only for yourself but for individuals in similar situations. You are talking about your girls to inform people of what SMA is and many people who have never heard of this disease know about it and are joining the fight because of you. You are active in causes and do things that benefit your community. Your girls are the driving force for all the good you do, not to add to your bank account…..that's the difference between you and Kate.
You are not exploiting your girlies; you're letting those who didn't know them personally see just how amazing they were in life and still are in memory.
Brook,
The only comparison that I can make between you and Kate are that you are both mothers of multiples. Your blog has given a face to SMA, your blog has given strength to others, your blog makes me smile when I think of your girls, your blog makes me a better mom to my Jack and Bella.
Kate is a horrible mother who is looking to make money off her children with this circus side show that she has created. There is no way to compare you two as people or as mothers, you are leaps and bounds better than she in both categories.
That is just my opinion (but you all know I am right 🙂 )
Sara
I don't think that I have ever written on your blog, but I am a long time reader.
You are nothing, nothing like that wackadoo Kate Gosselin. Like the person above me said, the only thing you have in common is the fact that you both have multiples.
I never would think that what you are doing here is exploitation. I think of it as therapy, as venting, of going through the grief process, you just happen to be doing it on a blog.
I wish you so much love and peace. You are amazing. I don't know where you get such strength and grace.